Advice From The Comic Hack 171 – The Soap Opera Villains And Cowardly Father Edition

Aug 26

Advice From The Comic Hack 171 – The Soap Opera Villains And Cowardly Father Edition

Magnificently bearded, devastatingly charming, epically talented and distinctively gravelly-voiced playwright, activist, and tony award-winning actor Harvey Fierstein once fog-horned this quote melodically, “Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim.  Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.” When is it suitable to tell the truth? When is it acceptable for you to get angry? What is the right time for you to unleash you wrath? Who gets to decide what you are going to be and who your family is? Are there any relationship lines that cannot be crossed?  Why have I started this introduction with so many questions? Today we deal with betrayal, a father who has failed, and a trope right out of fairy tales – both modern and hoary. And anger. Today we deal with so much anger.  19th Century German poet, journalist, essayist, and literary critic Heinrich Heine tells us “We should forgive our enemies, but not before they are hanged.” Today a Darling Reader asks me how she should deal with a betrayal most foul and a villain, an Honest-to-Neil-Degrasse-Tyson VILLAIN. The Darling reader is proud that they suppressed their characteristic anger and while I’m not suggesting like Heine that a noose be tied – I am wondering if it should have at least been considered? After you’ve read today’s column please do all those things I keep asking you to do to help me share this work. MOST IMPORTANTLY – I really want some interesting questions for upcoming columns. Submit your questions to advicequestions@comichacksguide.com.      I have always had a good relationship with my father until recently. About six months ago he got married and at first my step mother and I got along really well. About two months ago I was hanging out with her and out of nowhere she told me that she wants to start another family with my father and that meant that she wanted him to cut my sister and I out of his life so they can completely start over. I was surprised and angered but I didn’t do anything harsh in fact I just got up and left. Which honestly is a big step for me since I...

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Advice From The Comic Hack 170 – The You Got To Know When To Hold ‘Em (When Your Man Screws Up) Edition

Aug 19

Advice From The Comic Hack 170 – The You Got To Know When To Hold ‘Em (When Your Man Screws Up) Edition

Rebel, rocker, original and genuine bad-boy, Sex Pistol – punk rocker, host, author and (by vote) one of the 100 top Britons –  John “Johnny Rotten” Lydon once proudly proclaimed “I’m not here for your amusement. You’re here for mine.” I intended to take a hiatus two weeks ago – and I did.  I intended to return with this column last week but was felled by what I am POSITIVE was Ebola but my editor insists was merely a summer cold. Intentions are funny that way. Editors; not so much. But really? Just a cold? Not a life-threatening plague of Biblical proportions? One of us is wrong. Dead wrong! (editor’s note: it’s you dummy) In today’s only-slightly-germy return to banging out the Ol’ Advice Column for my dedicated followers A Darling Reader wants to know when-and-if she should pull the plug – metaphorically – on her dumb-ass husband gone astray.  I suspect you can tell from the preceding sentence how this is likely to go. I’m not going to ask you to LIKE or SHARE this post – You haven’t read it yet! But I AM going to ask you to SUBMIT questions for future columns to advicequestions@comichacksguide.com.  Do it for the amusement of BOTH of us.    Hi, Mr. Comic Hack!  So!  My marriage has been having a rocky time for several years.  Last fall, as the culmination of a sudden and stunning series of events and revelations involving infidelity and mental illness (on his part), my husband of more than a decade moved out-of-state, leaving myself and our son. Needless to say, I got myself into counseling.  He and I kept in contact.  We agreed that I would attempt to finish my current college course (estimated 2 years to completion) before we made “any Major Decisions” regarding our relationship. He completely broke my trust – destroyed it, nuked it from orbit, if you will.  Since moving away, he has done nothing tangible to rebuild that trust.  While he seems to be doing well materially for himself now, he does not seem to be doing anything more substantial than making noises about our relationship. I am a compassionate, giving, loving, patient kind of a person.  As of six...

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