Advice From The Comic Hack 165 – The Venting, Venty, Venti and “The Comic Hack Needs Your Help” Edition

Apr 29

Advice From The Comic Hack 165 – The Venting, Venty, Venti and “The Comic Hack Needs Your Help” Edition

When he wasn’t writing thinly–veiled Christian metaphor and giving us some very confusing ideas about closets, Clive Staples Lewis – British novelist, poet, academic, medievalist, literary critic, essayist, lay theologian, broadcaster, lecturer, and friend to J. R. R. Tolkein – told us “Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art… It has no survival value; rather is one of those things that give value to survival.”  Brilliant! We all have differing ideas on what makes a friend, what’s required of a friend and how far is too far for a friend to impose. As “Even sexier German export than Porsche 911 Turbo Carrera” –  Marlene Dietrich said “It’s the friends you can call up at 4am that matter.” Now I may be barking up the wrong lesbian suggesting this – but ‘Golden Age’ Marlene could have called me up at any time. Bring Hedy Lamar by, let’s party! In today’s column I not only address a Darling Reader’s struggle with a friend who’s venting and damaging their calm, I also ask a huge favor of those folks who want to see this column continue. So read, like share and submit questions for future columns to advicequestions@comichacksguide.com   When is a friendship pushing limits into being toxic?  There are always points where friends turn to vent or confide in you if only to hear it vocalized; I have several. But, despite always being an open ear to venting and never bring it up again, there are some that take advantage of it. One in particular has been pushing limits on my emotional spectrum to where it seems more like I’m an emotional punching bag and verbal abuse trash can than a friend. I understand their current situation and stress levels, but I’ve also repeatedly told them that if whatever they are mad about is directly involving me they can direct it to me, but if their anger is at someone else and not me that I don’t deserve the hostilities. Is that so wrong of me? When I was in high school I stumbled on this clever little book that I liked so much that I stole it, and subsequently made the librarian charge me for it so that I could keep...

Read More