Advice From The Comic Hack 146 – The “Proper Way To Grieve (Again)” Edition

Jun 04

Advice From The Comic Hack 146 – The “Proper Way To Grieve (Again)” Edition

In his lighthearted rom-com (Citation needed) Macbeth, Billy Shakespeare has Duncan’s son, the heartthrob Malcolm (Citation needed) say “Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the o-er wrought heart and bids it break.” But not everyone agrees with the Tao of Willy-Shakes.   If there are two things I have learned in this world the first would be “Always bet on Black” and for this I thank you Mr Snipes. The other thing I have learned is that Death is ubiquitous and painful and we all deal with its aftermath in our own way. In his book Horseradish – Bitter truths you can’t avoid none other than philosophical genius Lemony Snicket offers  “Unless you have been very, very lucky, you have undoubtedly experienced events in your life that have made you cry. So unless you have been very, very lucky, you know that a good, long session of weeping can often make you feel better, even if your circumstances have not changed one bit.”  Not everyone agrees. Today a Darling Reader promises to ask one question about grief and grieving. I tackle my answer with my normal class, sophistication and suggestions for genital violence. Sit right down and read today’s words. If you like this column you SHOULD know what to do by now. You may also submit questions for future columns to advicequestions@tortugatwins.com I have a question for your blog. The topic: when someone dear to you dies. I have had many people tell me “I know you miss your grandmother, but she’d hate to see you crying.” How would you address this? Of course I’m going to cry, I miss her-I love her. I always feel like this statement is shaming me for crying. Like perhaps by crying, I am somehow dishonoring her memory. On the one hand, I know my friends just care and are trying to help, on the other hand, comments like that never really help. How would you comfort someone grieving the loss of a loved one? (and what would you avoid saying/doing?) First off, not to wax pedantic but that’s actually THREE questions not one.  I’ll address them all– I’m that kind of Humble Comic Hack – but Darling Reader that’s...

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