Advice From The Comic Hack 139 – The “Why Stay In An Abusive Relationship And Only 49 Shades To Go Edition”

Feb 26

Advice From The Comic Hack 139 – The “Why Stay In An Abusive Relationship And Only 49 Shades To Go Edition”

Composer, Actor and singer- songwriter… no, make that GROWLER- songwriter Tom Waits, once said “The world is a hellish place and  bad writing is destroying the quality of our suffering”  I’m not  as bleak about the world as Mr. Waits but I’m genuinely fearful about the quality of my writing impacting this lovely planet.   There is a trope in comedy, in literature, even in art and philosophy about how tough life is, how cruel this world is and how everything is out to destroy our fragile, illusory happiness. I’ve never bought into that “Sturm und Drang” mentality.  I personally believe the world is full of wonders and opportunity and with hard work and just a dint of “luck” you can live a life of joy and adventure and love. I am such a Pollyanna! But sometimes, when faced with genocides, or ecological disaster or Kim and Kanye breeding – I have to wonder if I’m deluding myself! Mr. Waits has contributed so much to our culture. He is Oscar nominated, Grammy winning and a damn fine actor – his take on Renfield being arguably better than Dwight Frye’s. He is probably wrong in his comparison of the everyday to Perdition. But he just might be spot-on in his assessment on literature. Either way – until he begins writing a sporadic “weekly” advice column you’ll just have to settle for me.  In today’s column I address another one of those topics that make me wonder if I am crazy and if the world really is an Abyss of bad choices and stupid people. In so doing I provide what may prove to be an unsatisfying answer as to why people stay when they should obviously go! Before you go I beseech you to rescue me from my abyss of obscurity by “sharing” today’s column far-and-wide across the web Also please send me questions for future columns to: advicequestions@tortugatwins.com   Why do people stay with lovers that treat them badly?  It’s none of my business, but I am baffled as to why my sister stays with her live-in boyfriend.  She says she loves him and he makes her feel good.  But she won’t go out in public with him.   Huh?  If...

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