Advice From The Comic Hack 138 – The Weirdest Question About Monogamy and Fantasy Edition.

Jan 07

Advice From The Comic Hack 138 – The Weirdest Question About Monogamy and Fantasy Edition.

Francisco De Goya was a celebrated Spanish painter, printmaker and – according to my favorite reference source – both the last of the Old Masters and the first of the Moderns. (Good job Frankie G!) He states with confidence “Fantasy, abandoned by reason, produces impossible monsters; united with it, she is the mother of the arts and the origin of marvels.”   Since the dawn of time – or possibly fifteen minutes after dawn when the light was a little better –  mankind has struggled to find the answers. Writer director and remarkably-bad parental role model Woody Allen tells “Love is the answer. But while you’re waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions.” In today’s column I struggle to figure out both the answer AND the question as a crafty reader with a head full of romantic claptrap asks me a question about love, desire, and the sort of power-couple that this author believes only exists in works of fantasy. I invite you to read and enjoy today’s column. I invite you to share this column if you have fun reading it. And I invite you to submit questions for future columns to advicequestions@tortugatwins.com    In your opinion, is it better to be in a relationship where both people are faithful, only because it’s expected, not because they want to only be with each other. Or in a relationship where neither person ever considers a thought of being with anyone else, because they don’t want anyone else?   Both situations love each other.  But could it be healthier for the relationship to have or not have the fantasy of another?   Once upon a time long ago when I was a younger, rowdier Comic Hack, during the course of a first-date discourse, the person I was on that date with asked me what my fantasy was. I surprised them by responding that I HAD no fantasies. It wasn’t that I lacked imagination or aspirations you understand? It was merely the fact that – back in the bad-ol-days – I pretty-much DID whatever I wanted to DO whenever it occurred to me to do it. I’ve clearly mellowed with age (snicker) and my life circumstances have changed a bit....

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